When things aren’t the way they used to be. Nothing about life is constant. Not finances. Not friends. Not even family.
Sometimes the change is good, making relationships stronger and life more wholesome in general. Sometimes situations and/or people change, and not adjusting appropriately will potentially lead to the demise of one’s self esteem, confidence, and overall quality of life. Sometimes decisions about how to adjust to change are met with way-too-long inner battles.
The battles are only too long
because you try to push away the healthy solution…because it sometimes means letting go of something or someone you’re expected to hold onto.
People change, situations change, you change. Life is about adjusting to these changes, and deciding to take action on the solutions. Life is not easy, that’s not the point. The point is to learn and grow from every experience, every feeling, and every person. Sometimes you learn that the person you wouldn’t ordinarily give the time of day to has become your soulmate. Sometimes you learn that even family members have changed for good, but not in a good way.
Holding onto who people used to be only leads to heartache, self doubt, and the physical side effects of stress caused by these unfortunate revelations. Nonetheless, if you don’t feel right about something, there is probably a reason. If you pretend everything is fine, hoping things/people figure themselves out, and continue as if the status quo remains, you’re in for disappointment.
Take care of others. Take care of the world. But most importantly, take care of yourself…as long as your behavior isn’t consciously detrimental to yourself or others. There’s a reason you’re supposed to put your oxygen mask on before helping others with theirs…but don’t delay that process though, in order to help the others. I know it’s cliché, but if you don’t love yourself then who will? Not everyone is going to love you, but many will!! Don’t waste time on people who don’t make you feel cared for, wanted, and loved.
Regardless of who they are and what their relationship to you is, if you’re not happy and don’t feel the way you know you deserve to, do something about it. What makes you truly happy? Who makes you truly happy? Do those things with those people. ❤