“Being nice and generous, which is what we’re all supposed to do with one another…that’s the point of being a human…Kindness is something we all should have, and we need more of that out there.”
-Ellen at 2016 People’s Choice Awards
There are many reasons that go into why Ellen consistently gets picked for these awards. She has many great points, and we know it. Let us all now do something about it! Sharing compassion with the world is easier than people think! Even the smallest gesture could go a long way. Be compassionate to people even if they don’t look like they need it. Many people put up a facade of being fully put together, hiding that they may need support for something. Sometimes all it takes is a simple smile and “Howdy!” Sometimes offering a helping hand lifting boxes or whatever mundane life activities one may be doing. Sometimes even hugging a stranger (use your judgment) or acting silly in public to make someone laugh is not only kind, but it’s also fun! If you are naturally a goofball, you might as well make use of that characteristic as a skill to lift everyone’s spirits! Taking even a few seconds or minutes out of your routine to help another person with theirs is doable and wonderful! 🙂
When things aren’t the way they used to be. Nothing about life is constant. Not finances. Not friends. Not even family.
Sometimes the change is good, making relationships stronger and life more wholesome in general. Sometimes situations and/or people change, and not adjusting appropriately will potentially lead to the demise of one’s self esteem, confidence, and overall quality of life. Sometimes decisions about how to adjust to change are met with way-too-long inner battles.
The battles are only too long
because you try to push away the healthy solution…because it sometimes means letting go of something or someone you’re expected to hold onto.
People change, situations change, you change. Life is about adjusting to these changes, and deciding to take action on the solutions. Life is not easy, that’s not the point. The point is to learn and grow from every experience, every feeling, and every person. Sometimes you learn that the person you wouldn’t ordinarily give the time of day to has become your soulmate. Sometimes you learn that even family members have changed for good, but not in a good way.
Holding onto who people used to be only leads to heartache, self doubt, and the physical side effects of stress caused by these unfortunate revelations. Nonetheless, if you don’t feel right about something, there is probably a reason. If you pretend everything is fine, hoping things/people figure themselves out, and continue as if the status quo remains, you’re in for disappointment.
Take care of others. Take care of the world. But most importantly, take care of yourself…as long as your behavior isn’t consciously detrimental to yourself or others. There’s a reason you’re supposed to put your oxygen mask on before helping others with theirs…but don’t delay that process though, in order to help the others. I know it’s cliché, but if you don’t love yourself then who will? Not everyone is going to love you, but many will!! Don’t waste time on people who don’t make you feel cared for, wanted, and loved.
Regardless of who they are and what their relationship to you is, if you’re not happy and don’t feel the way you know you deserve to, do something about it. What makes you truly happy? Who makes you truly happy? Do those things with those people. ❤
“Patch Adams’ hello experiment in play today. A simple passing “hello, how are you” turned into a 45 minute conversation about life with a 54 year old man who was raised in NYC, studied psych at NYU, has the same favorite spot in Central Park, worked on Freud’s psychoanalytic theory and Skinnerian behaviorism, quit psych to go into urban economic planning, and worked with the Feds, then became an inventor of various random things in which he had no experience of. Fun fact: you can thank him for the beer can holders in sailboats. Hallelu! He sold his business and is planning on what to do next. You are never too old or too young to change directions and try new things!…including talking to strangers with big fluffy dogs.”
I posted this well before I even knew I was going to work with Patch. My knowledge about him was based solely on the movie and my research on the real Patch and his work. The term “hello experiment” came from the movie, I must admit, though I see the movie as a separate entity than Patch himself. After meeting him and working with him, I now must change “experiment” to “way of life.” Talking to strangers, or even connecting non-verbally is a way of life; a life of community building and connection making, a life of spreading the feeling of relevancy, and a life of learning things you never knew you never knew. Okay that last one came from watching “Colors of the Wind” on Youtube an hour ago, in Icelandic haha, but it still works!